tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1049018549878375129.post8625821778355411035..comments2023-05-27T04:38:17.150-07:00Comments on dance4ONE: LOVE and RELATIONSHIPSAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05611529817309383558noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1049018549878375129.post-34137799962019401922022-03-11T20:24:53.586-08:002022-03-11T20:24:53.586-08:00VERY GOOD AND ACCURATE. wOULD BE INTERESED IN HOW...VERY GOOD AND ACCURATE. wOULD BE INTERESED IN HOW YOU ARE DOING IN YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIPS. WHEN WE WERE RELATIING TO EACH OTHER SOME TIME AGO i WAS MOST IMPRRESSED BY YOU AND HOPE YOU ARE DING WELL. yOU CERTAINLY HAVE THE PERSONALITY AND THE GIFTS . CHARLES. KEENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09528222935598895433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1049018549878375129.post-27051094342240679952018-07-25T04:35:51.895-07:002018-07-25T04:35:51.895-07:00It's like we don't know what we have until...It's like we don't know what we have until we lose it. We may not even know anything is wrong until it is gone. We were just doing the best we knew how at the time. It's these experiences that make us understand where we went wrong and gives us time to reflect on relationships and what we would do differently.<br /><br />As I am reading this article, I am in the process of working a 12 step program. To me this not only helps me get a better understanding of my Higher Power and grow to have a stronger relationship with Him it also helps me gain a better understanding of relationships with others as well. <br /><br />As I am working step 4, made a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself. I see where I was wrong and feel empathy for those involved and those I have hurt. <br /><br />Your sound advice about relationships came to me at the right time of my life though I know you wrote this years ago. However, if I were to read this then, I wouldn't have been able to fully grasp it's message as I do so today. <br /><br />Your advice 1 - begin any relationship as a friend and treat them as you should treat a brother or sister. <br /><br />If I would remember most of my high school friends, we grew up together having each others backs, just as a brother should protect his sister. We grew up like family should have. If I had treated them with the love I claimed to have for them in my addiction then I would have protected them from any harm that I put in their path because of my self-destructive behavior. I may still have them in my life today. <br /><br />In my years of addiction I didn't know how to communicate my feelings. So how could I expect anyone to trust me if I don't know how to trust myself? <br /><br />As with my blood sibling, she always craved a sisterly bond I couldnt share because I also craved a bond with our mother who couldn't share with us. Then as I became a mother myself. I failed terribly at that as well. <br /><br />Still to this day I struggle with communicating my feelings to the people I say I love and call my friends. <br /><br />Your advice 2 - being overly concerned with whether or not he or she is "the one"<br /><br />That one took me awhile to figure out that "the one" I should seek first for was my Higher Power of my understanding. It wasn't until I fell flat on my face in addiction that I came to that conclusion. <br /><br />I was drowning long before I picked up any drug, how could I save anyone when I was sinking too? How could I expect anyone to love me if I don't know how to love myself? Nor could I expect anyone to love me if I am treating them and myself like I don't love them?<br /><br />In my past relationships I seemed to pick guys that treated me just as badly as I treated myself. Why was this happening? Could it be because they didn't like themselves that much as well? How could anyone who says they like themselves allow anyone to treat them badly? Just like how can anyone who says they love you treat you badly? Goes both ways. <br /><br />Your advice 3 -when relationships are ending or failing do not put the guilty party on blast<br /><br />Oh, this one I fully agree on. I need to work on fully heatedly if I said I ever loved anyone I wouldn't try to ruin their name by putting their business out there. It not only shows everyone how sick and pathetic I am. It also shows how much of a liar I am. How could anyone trust me with anything if I act like this when someone hurts me? It ruins all relationships I have not just the one that is ending. <br /><br />This also goes back to advice 1 - treat like a brother or sister should. <br /><br />I say I love them, then I would protect them like I would any brother or sister, or any of a member of family. <br /><br />Thank you so much for sharing your advice on relationships. Gives me something more to think about in my course through my recovery and healing for healthier relationships in my present as well as in the future. <br /><br />B. Eidson of NosdieX Graphics Nosdiex Graphiicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10274463431847725926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1049018549878375129.post-36533794529970501002016-09-02T05:06:35.173-07:002016-09-02T05:06:35.173-07:00Selery Dallas Fulfillment is a 3PL company that he...Selery <a href="http://www.seleryfulfillment.com/" rel="nofollow">Dallas Fulfillment</a> is a 3PL company that helps eCommerce businesses through warehousing and personalized order fulfillment.Herry Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06336899634205525690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1049018549878375129.post-32901076930926788032016-03-09T00:01:22.875-08:002016-03-09T00:01:22.875-08:00Thank you so much for your comments. I am so pleas...Thank you so much for your comments. 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